I walked into a bad marriage - knowingly. I saw the signs in time to run, and yet I moved forward anyway. I lived with this narcissist, who had many symptoms of borderline personality disorder. I knew early on, and yet I stayed in that situation through 17 years, 3 kids, and 2 marital counselors. I am learning now the dynamics of our situation and why I did it.
I am nice to a fault, extremely non-confrontational, and obsessively fair, and I am the perfect type of person to be controlled by someone like my ex-wife. Or at least I was.
I left her a few years ago, and I am taking back the wheel. I have since found love again, and the future is looking very bright.
In this blog, I intend to share the details of how I ended up where I am today. I am hopeful that I can help others like me to realize they are not alone. I plan to offer stories from my former marriage as well as opinions and personal observations about our situation. I am also hopeful that others who are dealing with or have dealt with similar unbalanced relationships will contribute as well via moderated comments.
I am not a psychological professional. Readers accept all responsibility for how they process and use my posts. I will not promise to be fair or balanced in my posts. Instead, I will post from my own perceptions of situations and leave it to you to understand that her version of the stories may vary. I will do my very best to be open and honest about everything I post, but I will not use any real names. I hope that you will find it helpful and that I will find it freeing and cathartic to put it into words. Welcome.